31st July 2016-The pros & cons of having kids late.

My god son is 22! I know I don’t look old enough. Funny women have children at any stage these days! My god son is the child of my best mate from school same class since primary school. My kids are 6 & 2 years old she was 23 when she had Ricky and I was 39 when I had my first.

I really thought it is was a disadvantage when I had lily as I have never sat at home with my girls wishing I was out with my friends. I did my partying , been there have the tshirt, l kissed alot of frogs before i found my prince and the father of my kids is fabulous and I want to be with him always. But there are pros and cons. I am tired a lot but I think that is just a mum thing rather than an age thing.  My friends have had their families and their children are having kids. So I am noticeably older than the other woman at baby groups and toddler classes!

The main difference of course is the age of grandparents, my mum and dad are both retired but although they have the time they are not in the best of health so I use a childminder who is brilliant but I do pay £££s and I do know Mums whose parents have their children daily while they work cutting costs hugely.

Having children on or around 40 has not affected my health for which I am grateful but if I had found my husband earlier, knew the joy of parenthood earlier, I know I would never have stopped at two. I don’t feel it has affect my career, except I am in the lucky position to be with a great employer, who pay well and are flexible to mums working hours.

I do worry about them and their children when they are 40 I will be 80, if I am still around. I would hate to miss the great events of their lives;  weddings, babies, university ect. But things can happen to us all at any time that is the nature of life.

So that is it really for me starting a family late led to stopping having children earlier than I would have. I often feel brewdy when I see babies. And most importantly I worried about leaving them prematurely.

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30th July 2016

Crazy day of shopping and house work and bbq!  Shattered but girls good today. Cracked open a cheap bottle of fizz and Watched ‘The hateful eight’ Tarantino movie it was long and blood as expected!  

The Triangle

28th July 2016

The summer holidays are in full swing, a week in and we are coping, between bouts of bickering, all out fighting, shouting and tantrums. All of which do happen holidays or not. My 2 year old hates being told what to do, wants to do everything herself and has no fear, this coupled with a cute mind means trouble with a capital t! My six year old is quite tolerant but there really is so much hitting and pinching anyone can take. We have loads of plans of fabulous things to do but not the budget to do them all.

We normally swim at Kings centre East Grinstead which is 10 minutes walk from home but today we fancied a change and we tried the triangle in Burgess Hill and it was fabulous. I found it easily using google maps, parking was no problem and free. It did not break the bank for swimming (off peak), under 3’s free, junior £4 and adult £6.65, it was clean and there were loads of family changing rooms. The pools were so excellent, big and small slides, baby pool, junior pool, two lazy rivers one which goes outside, bridges, water falls, the outdoor pool was disappointingly cold but I expect on a real scorching day it would be a god send, there was aqua aerobics going on and lane swimming and even though it was hugely busy we still had room and loads of fun. Cafe was good not over price and we will definitely go back another day! Smiles all round!

Next week we will try another attraction and I will let you know all about it!

 

Intro

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July 27th 2016

I am Kathy, a 45 year old Mum with 2 daughters, Lily 6 years old and Poppy 2. I recently married their baby Daddy and a really fab chap, I have been with for 13 years. I work part time in a contact centre and juggle childcare, checking in on my carer Dad and disabled Mum, I love to sewing and to keep my husband happy (I know not exactly feminist statement).

We are the original noisy family, We love nothing better than the chaos of family get togethers with all of the noise and laughter that ensues. I have a gorgeous tattooed and bearded brother. I am so lucky to have the best extended family, my husbands sister and brother and their wives are awesome and I have a fabulous family in Stoke.
I know it sound idyllic does it!

I have hypothyroidism and I am obese and trying to lose weight. It seems to be losing battle, my hormones are raging and like many women I am fighting with doctors for help. I am sick of the sad looks from people who judge me for my size when I struggle everyday and probably do more things daily than most people do in a week.

The flu like virus I recently recovered from left me with no voice which is hugely frustrating for a hopeless ‘chatterbox’, I hope blogging will give me an outlet for my thoughts and feelings and give me a record of my journey/attempt to get healthy and you never know maybe other ladies going though similar struggles will know their not alone.

1st August 2016

I was at work today while my husband has a week off to be with the girls during school holidays. To be clear this is not the first time by far but he earns more than me, so I work part time and I have them the majority of the time. I am filled with dread as to how it will go! Mainly as I expect he will be so awesome and they will have so much fun that I will be shown up as a fraud! I would like him to know how difficult it can be sometimes as I do feel he underestimates the job I do.

However when i get home, he has had a really tough day and is full of sighs and tales of huge poos and even bigger tantrums and I realise it would be so much better if he had seen the best of them and how much joy we have everyday, the fun and the love! So here’s to tomorrow and hoping they have 

a better day. I really really mean it!